HOW TECHNOLOGY ADDICTION CAN KILL MASCULINITY

Go to any public place - mall, a train station, a baseball game or a restaurant - and observe the people around you.

What are they doing? Are they interacting with other people? Are they looking up and around at others? 

Probably not. They're likely doing what you and I do all the time - staring mindlessly at our phones, completely disconnected from the outside world.

We tend to use technology as a medicine. It's a quick and easy fix to numb the pain and confusion that comes with everyday life. 

Stressed? You've got a phone to fix that.

Bored? Well, that's what Reddit is for. 

Angry? Scrolling through Facebook can dull those feelings. 

Sad? Distract yourself by continually updating that ESPN app. 

All of that is a problem for me. I want to be a man who is inspired, interesting and present in the moment. I want to be available to those around me. I want to be focused. I want to live with clarity and conviction.

So I have to ask myself: is technology and social media  giving more of those things...or less?

It's a question I ask myself often, and you should ,too. 

In the latest episode of the podcast, we explore this questions and give some strategies for men who want to reject a reliance on technology, social media and constant consumption and trade it for a life of living in the present.

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CONFIDENCE AND CHARISMA FOR THE AVERAGE GUY

If you're like me, you probably had to read the book The Great Gatsby in high school.   

I've read the novel a few times since then and every time I read it, I'm fascinated by one of the main characters, Jay Gatsby. Nick Carraway (the narrator and protagonist of the story) describes the phenomenal charisma and confidence Jay Gatsby exudes towards the people around him:

"He smiled understandingly - much more than understandingly. It was one of those rare smiles with a quality of eternal reassurance in it, that you may come across four or five times in life. It faced - or seemed to face - the whole eternal world for an instant, and then concentrated on you with an irresistible prejudice in your favor. It understood you just as far as you wanted to be understood, believed in your as you would like to believe in yourself, and assured you that it had precisely the impression of you that, at your best, you hoped to convey."

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THE STRAIGHTFORWARD WORKOUT FOR MEN WHO WANT TO LOOK AND FEEL AMAZING

Most guys don't realize how easy it is to get into great shape. They don't realize how little time investment it takes to look and feel amazing.

The truth is, you don't need to spend hours in the gym each week. You don't need some sort of crazy, "secret sauce", magic pill workout. Really, there's just a few basic things you need to do in the gym (and outside of it) that will accomplish all the health and fitness goals you probably want to achieve. 

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HOW TO WIN EVERY DEBATE AND ARGUMENT, EVERYTIME

It feels like we're more divided these days.

People have always had differing opinions, of course, but it seems like voices are louder and more aggressive, like they want a fight. They want to embarrass detractors, prove them wrong and shut them down with a brilliant argument. 

Maybe it's that crazy uncle of yours, yelling about the election at your family Thanksgiving dinner.

Or it could be that old high-school classmate posting memes on Facebook about what to feed your kid or the latest fad that is, or is not, socially responsible.

Perhaps one of your co-worker's favorite activities is shouting from the rooftops their opinion about investments, money and the economy. Anyone who disagrees is wrong and dumb.

It feels almost inevitable that you'll get pulled into a debate. Like it or not, you'll be forced to engage in an argument because somebody just refuses to let issue XYZ go.

What does a man do when pulled into a debate like this?

He wins. 

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SECRETS TO TRAVELING THE WORLD ON A BUDGET

Everybody I know wants to travel more.

Whether it's weekend trips to the city in the next state, a two week international trip to Western Europe, or spending six days lounging on a Caribbean beach, we know that getting out and exploring is good for the soul. 

I know for Erin and I, our ability to travel the world in the first few years of our marriage has been one of the best investments we've made. We've spent countless nights on the couch, laughing as we watch video diaries we've made on our trips. Travel has offered us adventure and spontaneity together, as well as rich times of rest and recalibration.  

"But Jay! I want to travel, too...but I'm not rich. How could anybody afford that?!" 

Welp, that's what the latest podcast episode is all about. 

A few key points

  • My trick for finding the cheapest flights on the internet
  • How to travel the world without needing to be rich
  • How I budget for travel each month

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STOP SETTING GOALS

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Tell me if this sounds familiar:

You decide that it's time to make some changes in life. You want to grow. You want to get in better shape, make more money, finally start that blog you've been toying with or maybe you want to grow intellectually.

You listen to people like me shout from the rooftops, "You have to set goals! Write them down! Set a deadline!" and you dutifully get out your pen and paper to write it all down.

You scour social media for inspirational quotes and helpful strategies.  You commit to sacrificing health, sleep, money and relationships to relentlessly grind towards the things you desire. All the sacrifice will be worth it in the end, right?

You get yourself all kinds of pumped up and boldly declare, "I'LL DO WHATEVER - YES, WHATEVER - IT TAKES TO ACCOMPLISH MY GOALS!!!!".

Three weeks later you've lost that sheet of paper and along with it, all your motivation. You wonder what happened to all that drive and conviction you had when you started. Why did you fail so quickly?

I've been there, too. Many times.

Because I've experienced that exact same feeling, I've made a big decision and I'd like for you to consider joining me in it:

I'm done setting goals. Finished. At least in the way that goal setting is traditionally taught.

See, I believe there's a better way to create the life you desire. A new way. I believe there is a different approach that requires a fundamental mindset shift that- if applied- can radically alter mens' ability to design the life they've dreamed about for so long.

Interested in hearing more? Check out the new strategy on the latest episode of the Lifestyle Design for Men podcast.

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